I also see this loop in money. Discomfort → spend (or earn, or chase) → relief → repeat. And you're right, sitting with the boundary is the hardest part
I “disappeared inside it “ ( people pleasing) for decades, and in the end was in an almost constant state of guilt and resentment ,then drinking to numb it . In fact I created an entire false existential philosophy around it to legitimize it.
That being said sobriety and it’s inevitable realization has led me to embrace the real me more and more. It is definitely a work in progress. I now know though that the “uncomfortable” is part of the healing . Thanks for the insight my friend!
Thanks Joe - I love that sobriety and sitting through the uncomfortable parts has allowed you to find and embrace the real you. I appreciate the insight, my friend. Always great to hear from you!
I also see this loop in money. Discomfort → spend (or earn, or chase) → relief → repeat. And you're right, sitting with the boundary is the hardest part
Yes Greg. I definitely see the loop in money/spending as well. It's been an area I've had to keep an eye on in my own life. Thank you 🙏🏼
Hi Shane
I can relate:
I “disappeared inside it “ ( people pleasing) for decades, and in the end was in an almost constant state of guilt and resentment ,then drinking to numb it . In fact I created an entire false existential philosophy around it to legitimize it.
That being said sobriety and it’s inevitable realization has led me to embrace the real me more and more. It is definitely a work in progress. I now know though that the “uncomfortable” is part of the healing . Thanks for the insight my friend!
Thanks Joe - I love that sobriety and sitting through the uncomfortable parts has allowed you to find and embrace the real you. I appreciate the insight, my friend. Always great to hear from you!